When a man and a woman enter into a romantic relationship, the desire is that the relationship will grow stronger, develop, and eventually end in marriage. For the relationship to succeed and eventually end in marriage, there are certain things which you have to do and practice constantly. Communicating effectively, managing conflicts well, and showing commitment to the relationship are three of the things you can do to make your romantic relationship succeed.
Method 1: Communicating Effectively
You need to examine yourself, especially your life habits which may be causing you problems in your relationship. Were you brought up in a home where you were not encouraged to express your feelings openly? Then you must learn to talk openly, freely, and without fear. When something is bothering you, you need to voice it out. If you tell your partner that you don’t mind about something when you do, or you are happy with something when you are not, it will hurt proper communication in your relationship. The issue will go on bothering you without your partner being aware of it. You may become resentful, unhappy and this will affect the relationship. With time your feelings will build up over months until finally, you explode. Having the courage to say what you feel at a time when your partner does something you do not like prevents it becoming a larger, and more difficult to solve later.
Method 2: Don’t Avoid An Issue
Another thing you can do to destroy your relationship is to avoid issues that are upsetting to you when they crop up and refusing to talk at all. In this case, you retreat into silence, refuse to pick up his or her calls, and stop visiting him or her. When your partner does something that you do not like or says something that you wish he or she had not said, tell them immediately. If you do not tell them, they will not know that what they did affect you in a bad way. Do not assume that they will know what you are feeling. Let them know by telling them.
Method 3: Manage Conflicts Well
Researchers have found out that the most reliable indicator of whether or not your relationship will succeed depends on how well you manage the conflicts that will arise in your relationship.One good way to manage conflicts is to control your tongue. When you fail to control your tongue, small disagreements can easily flare into big conflicts. Refrain from using insults when you are angry with your partner. And when he or she says something to hurt you, restrain yourself from retaliating with hurtful words. When your partner angers you, keep quiet for some time. Wait till you have sufficient control over yourself before you discuss the matter. If he or she is irritating you, walk out of the room or the house. Go to a place where you can relax mentally to help you to cool down. Gain control over your emotions, and then come back and talk things over with your partner.
Often the things that people in love argue about are things that can easily be resolved with mutual understanding. Try to understand your partner’s point of view. Every person is a unique individual, and your partner’s personality may differ from yours. You may get into arguments when you expect your partner to think and act just like you do. Learn to accept your partner just as he or she is. Be tolerant and allow for their mistakes.
Method 4: Decide To Be Committed To Each Other
You must make up your mind that you are going to work to make the relationship succeed. That means that you will not quit when you encounter difficulties, or when your partner is not treating you right. Remember quitters never win. And winners never quit. Persevere in your efforts to make the relationship succeed, and it will succeed. The fact that you encounter problems in your relationship does not mean the situation is hopeless. Facing the reality of relationships- that problems are bound to arise- can help you to put the relationship in perspective and work towards solutions.